urgh! My word for the day, Urgh! I feel urgh with the new darkness in themorning for daylight savings, and my body feels tired. I have the personal trainer this morning, so that will wake me up.
Having a little extra time to surf the net this morning, got me thinking about family, as I quickly looked through my stepdaughter's facebook page. There was a hello from my brother in laws girlfriend, friend, ex fiance, not really sure what she is...... My BIL has a son, to a former girlfriend, whom he dated for many years. they split several years ago, and he then started seeing this other woman. She's nice enough, but the world is all about her, all about her looking good, and she completely takes over any situation with her loud cringing personality. Look, as a future SIL, I was prepared to get to know her, and accept her into the family. Well, my in-laws, (now mind you I'm not married to my partner, so these terms are just to signify where people are in my family, not that I don't want to marry him, it's a long sad and painful story...) Anyway, my in-laws bought the 2 carat diamond ring for the engagement ring, for this woman, WTF, that is such bullshit, and had to be in that little blue box from Tiffany's of course, so no change out of $35K, absurd! Now she flashes this thing around, and has no idea that the in-laws paid for it, thinking her future hubby is loaded, and not understanding the family dynamics. Her future Beau would never fill her in on these things, but my man does, I know just about everything to do with the fmaily businesses, and the dynamics behind them. The family company is in the son's name, as he has the industrial buliding license, but it is owned by my FIL, but the girlfriend thinks everyone works for my BIL, sorry, mixed up I know, hope you could keep up.
Anyway, so she has this ring, worth a small house 20 years ago, and today, a nice car! But he felt he had to buy this ring, to get the girl, well if you had to do that, then the girl aint worth having. Now this all happened about 4 years ago, and not long after the ring giving, she started to (well always did) flirt with guys everywhere, and then run and hide behind BIL when the advances were accepted, too funny. Always druck and loud and embarrassing for my BIL, I just shake the head, and think why not some nice girl??? Well she set herself up on myspace, with a single relationship status, and was from what I understand, going around town having fun. Not thinking of the consequences, or what that really meant I think, but eventually she gave the ring back, and it was all over, BIL heartbroken, crying to the previous girlfriend, mother of his child, whom he had never asked to marry him, and who was gutted and pissed with all the proceedings. Anyway, she took him back, so to speak, and they were kind of seeing each other. Now this woman I can't stand, so full of her own self importance, is always right, and is rude when you challenge her statement, so I have little to do with her. Well really the whole family has little to do with each other. Sad, as they are all great people, screwed up, but great.
Well BIL is now back with this woman, but still sort of sees the mother of his child, who is now getting pissed about it. The latest I heard was she wanted to pay off her mortgage, and demanded $75k, or he wouldn;t see his son. he was actually worried about it, I told him it was crap, she was not his partner, and had no right s to ask for anything. She got the most amasing settlement considering what he has, and has the nerve to ask for more, anyway not my relationship, but hope he has gone to CSA to get some help. Well he is back with "bolt on" (fiance) (that's what her nickname is, fake boobs!) and flashing his relationship around town, my in-laws will not have anything to do with her, as the stories my BIL has told them, she is not welcome in the family, quite sad. She doesn't understand, as she has no idea that all her little misgivings have been splashed to the in-laws, but the in-laws also don;t know what it would be like to live with their son in that sort of relationship, it would be a nightmare, as the guy is like a 5 year old.
So now Bolt On is facebooking my stepdaughter, and saying she would like to catch up, and sorry she didn't get to talk the time she turned up at a family event, and was asked to leave. Poor thing, would have been very embarrassing, as BIL told her to go and join the party while he played boats. Well noone had spoken to her in a couple of years, and she just walks in and orders drinks on the family tab, and sits at the atble to chat, uninvited, was awkward. But she left after being asked to and probably doesn't understand. I would love to tell her why the black sheep thing, but it's not my place. Might talk to the MIL when she is back from holidays.
Well my man and I have a brilliant relationship, and are very happy. noone gets it, as we pretty well just stick together with everything going on around us, are best friends, and like to be around each other. Well must go feed the horses, and get moving. xxx
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